I think we need to begin some kind of movement. Not one of those carrying-signs, fists-in-the-air movements associated with our age group (albeit, not necessarily our generation...), but a movement nonetheless.
I can remember from my various trips across the US that the degree to which people acknowledge each other in public changes drastically depending on the locale. I've also noticed how much differences in "public kindness" impact the overall environment of a community. I've been in Irvine for only a few weeks and already the 50 m.p.h. residential street speed limits and the universal blank stares from passers by on sidewalks are beginning to get to me.
I know I wrote before about how the undergraduate community at my university scored approximately "2" on a 1-10 scale of social fluidity, but this is larger than one university campus. It appears to be a developing social norm.
So here are my ideas:
--say hello to nearly everyone in public that does not appear dangerous
--when changing lanes in traffic, make eye contact with other drivers (to the best of your ability) and wave when asking to be "let in" to a lane, then thank them with another wave after the lane change
--read, remember, and use the name of every server/employee at every restaurant/store/etc.
--let others go first (this can be applied to many situations: lines, small entryways, parking spaces, bathrooms, etc.)
Any more ideas to add?
I know a lot of it seems to come down to problems with density (i.e. too many people to say hello to) and time (i.e. being too strapped for time to spend it greeting strangers). But the only other option seems to be an eventual slide into a sort of public apathy and disconnect.
A lot discomfort with the way things are in the world seems to be met by sighs of disappointment and blame placed on those "at fault." Instead, maybe we should all try to impact our environments positively, instead of grind our teeth at the things that frustrate us. It would be nice if we could all try to value the time/presence of other people at least half as much as we value ourselves.
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In other news, I put up a Web page for my photography. I might try to trick some publishers into thinking I'm a "real" photographer, so I figured this was a good first step. Most of the photos are those I had up last year on my old page, but there are some newer ones scattered about, as well. You can check it out at:
www.troyjsimpson.com
(I had to add the j because troysimpson.com was taken)
I can remember from my various trips across the US that the degree to which people acknowledge each other in public changes drastically depending on the locale. I've also noticed how much differences in "public kindness" impact the overall environment of a community. I've been in Irvine for only a few weeks and already the 50 m.p.h. residential street speed limits and the universal blank stares from passers by on sidewalks are beginning to get to me.
I know I wrote before about how the undergraduate community at my university scored approximately "2" on a 1-10 scale of social fluidity, but this is larger than one university campus. It appears to be a developing social norm.
So here are my ideas:
--say hello to nearly everyone in public that does not appear dangerous
--when changing lanes in traffic, make eye contact with other drivers (to the best of your ability) and wave when asking to be "let in" to a lane, then thank them with another wave after the lane change
--read, remember, and use the name of every server/employee at every restaurant/store/etc.
--let others go first (this can be applied to many situations: lines, small entryways, parking spaces, bathrooms, etc.)
Any more ideas to add?
I know a lot of it seems to come down to problems with density (i.e. too many people to say hello to) and time (i.e. being too strapped for time to spend it greeting strangers). But the only other option seems to be an eventual slide into a sort of public apathy and disconnect.
A lot discomfort with the way things are in the world seems to be met by sighs of disappointment and blame placed on those "at fault." Instead, maybe we should all try to impact our environments positively, instead of grind our teeth at the things that frustrate us. It would be nice if we could all try to value the time/presence of other people at least half as much as we value ourselves.
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In other news, I put up a Web page for my photography. I might try to trick some publishers into thinking I'm a "real" photographer, so I figured this was a good first step. Most of the photos are those I had up last year on my old page, but there are some newer ones scattered about, as well. You can check it out at:
www.troyjsimpson.com
(I had to add the j because troysimpson.com was taken)
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